I recently heard something that gave me pause. Lysa Terkeurst said that grieving is dreaming backwards. I liked that because it is true. When my Mom and Dad passed away in 2019, I did a lot of that, dreaming backwards. With the tears I reminisced on past times and had a lot of regrets as well. The pain I put them through, the lack of respect they deserved, regardless or not their wrongs. These were my parents that I should respect and I failed a lot of the time. Problem is, you only see that once your loved one is gone. It’s too late then, to show them respect, but God can bring something beautiful out of what is left. We just have to let Him and the first step is admitting our wrongs. Funny how it takes a death to show us the loved one’s heart. But, that is how it is. At least for me.
Another thing about grieving is remembrance of things said by the loved one which I call wisdom now. One of the things my Mom told me was something her Aunt told her. She said, “when you get older, the past comes back to sit with you”. Oh, how right she was. The past sits a little too long with me at times. But, even this, God can make into something beautiful. The requirement is to own our sin, repent, and ask God to use it for His glory. He will. My Dad told me a few times that he wouldn’t always be around to bail me out of things. My Dad always bailed me out and I took that for granted. Instead of seeing that all he wanted was for me to stand on my own 2 feet and stand right, all I saw was him not trusting me. Truth is, he shouldn’t have, but the point is that his words were perceived wrong by me so it left a large hole in our relationship. I was wrong, not him. But, that is what sin does. It separates people and hides the truth from the sinner so that the sinner can continue on with their lusts while being deceived. Oh, that we pray that God give us eyes to see and ears to hear the truth and make changes this side of eternity.
So, today, brothers and sisters, don’t wait for all this to happen to you. Start now. But, if it has already happened, take courage knowing God can use even this. Be blessed.
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