Until I met my second husband, I had no clue as to what love was. We all think we know what love is, but most really do not know. When you experience true love you know it. You cannot explain it, but you know.
We start with puppy love. This love is a sweet love, but it isn’t real love. Real love knows that the person loved is loved unconditionally. There is nothing you could do to push them away bearing in mind that this is a two way street. Both sides must be on the same page.
I Corinthians chapter 13 describes this love perfectly. It says love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Now, these three remain: faith, hope and love. The greatest of these is love.
The way to know if it is real love is to ask yourself, ‘Am I completely vulnerable to this person?’ Can you tell him or her anything without wondering if they can handle it? If you can drop all walls and be you, no faking and pretending, but just be you and they receive you without judgment, then this is an indicator of true love.
When I met my husband, we were friends, then best friends and today, 25 years later, he is still my best friend. I rather be with him anytime than with another. We spend every day together and would not change this for anything. Do we argue? Of course we do at times, but never long and I can count on one hand those times when we did argue. He is always there for me and my biggest cheerleader. He loves my family like I love them because they are a part of me. He would not dare let someone disrespect me
It took awhile for me to trust him because I had been hurt before and my walls were high. But, he was patient with me and proved himself trustworthy. Also, if you want to experience true love you must be willing to chance being hurt. I know this is a hard one, but it is truth. We must take chances in life or we just spin our wheels going nowhere and settle for second best if that.
True love says I’m sorry when wrong. True love trusts with everything in them. True love hates when the other is hurting especially when you are the one who did the hurting. True love has no motives except to love and can easily say I’m sorry when wrong and sometimes when not wrong.
It is not about physical attributes, although you must be attracted to them, but a person’s personality can suffice. Or how they carry themselves. Attraction comes in many forms, not just physical attributes.
All these things are fruit of my relationship with my husband…and when you are loved like this you can’t help but reciprocate. Nobody else will do. A love like this is true love.
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